The path
Five stages, in order
No two families take exactly the same path, but most pass through these. Knowing which one you're in is half of feeling steadier.
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Step 1: Clear the ground
You call or write, we meet, and you bring whatever you have: letters, a calendar, a list of questions. You leave knowing what comes first and what can wait.
- 02
Step 2: Set roots
The urgent things go in place: temporary arrangements for the children, the house and the bills, or a protective order if you need one.
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Step 3: Let it grow
Information is shared, numbers are checked, and we negotiate or go to mediation. This stage takes most of the time, and most of the work is calm paperwork.
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Step 4: Settle
The agreement is written and signed, and a judge approves it. If you could not agree, this is where a hearing or trial happens.
- 05
Step 5: Rings, later
Years on, things change: a job, a move, a child who is older. A good agreement says how to revisit it, and my door stays open when you do.
Questions about the stages
How soon will I hear back after I write?
I read every message myself and reply as soon as I can, usually the same day or the next. If it's urgent, call, and say so at the start.
What should I bring to a first meeting?
Anything you've been given or sent: court papers, letters, a calendar of the children's weeks, recent pay stubs and a rough list of what you own and owe. If you have none of that, come anyway.
Can we meet by video?
Yes, and by phone. Most of the paperwork happens by email and secure file, so you do not have to come downtown for every step.
Do I have to tell my spouse I came?
No. What we talk about stays between us. I will not contact anyone until you tell me to.
Not sure which stage you are in?
Tell me what you've been given and what you've done so far. I'll tell you where you are and what's next.
Please keep confidential details, such as account numbers or what happened at home, out of the contact form.